Popular wisdom states that a couple should enter marriage wearing rose-colored glasses so as to not see the imperfections in their spouse. Perhaps we’ve got this backwards.
Over the years, experience has shown that it would be better, and healthier, for the marriage for both parties if they began with an honest appraisal of their spouse – warts and all. As the normal events of a new marriage unfold, and we learn to live with those imperfections, then it is time to don the glasses so that we can look past the flaws and concentrate on the good things that attracted us to our spouse.
The truth is that we are all sinners and no matter how much we love our spouse, he/she, like us, is going, to be flawed by sin. The consequence of that flaw is that we will fight, we will say angry things, and we will go to bed angry even though we shouldn’t. It says that there will be difficult days in the life of our marriage. This is a natural outcome of two sinful, loving people living in intimate contact with one another.
However, when we re-read what Paul has to say concerning the roles of a husband and wife in the marriage, obedience to what he has written automatically demands that we don the rose-colored glasses.
Have you got yours on and how are they fitting these days?
Scripture: Ephesians 5:15-32
The Most Important Life Lesson Ever Learned
There are many lessons that we learn from God’s Word – The Bible. We can make ourselves dizzy just trying to remember them all, let alone putting them into practice.
At times, it is a good idea to just step back and take a look at what is truly fundamental in our relationship with our Lord and Savior Jesus. Anna B. Warner did exactly that when, in 1860, she wrote these words: “Jesus loves me – this I know, for the Bible tells me so; little ones to Him belong – they are weak, but He is strong.” We of course know this as the first verse to that children’s hymn – Jesus Loves Me.
These words are simple, direct, and fundamental to our relationship with our Lord and Savior. So, the next time that you have the opportunity to sing this hymn, do so with the gusto and innocence of the Child of God that you are.
Know that you are loved in spite of what you may have done in the past, what you are doing, and what you might do in the future. Allow that love to bring you to the confession of your sins and to guide you this day and every day that follows.
Scripture: Ephesians 3:14-18
Take Care Of Your Marriage
Marriage is one of God’s gifts to His children. It’s like a fine wine that ages well with care and nurturing. With each passing year it can become more robust and full-bodied, or it can spoil, turning to the sourest of vinegars.
So, what does it take to care for and nurture a marriage? Well, not only does God give us this institution of marriage, He also teaches us how to take care of it.
He tells us that a wife should be submissive to her husband; not as an inferior to him but as a partner in the marriage. He goes on to tell a husband that he should love his wife as Christ loved the Church, placing her welfare first in his life above all else. Still not done, He tells a wife that she should respect her husband, the implication being that he should be deserving of her respect.
If both of you can accomplish this, then your marriage will sweeten and become more robust and enjoyable with each passing year. It will take some work and possibly a change in focus, but it is worth the effort. Why? Because you will be living according to His will for you; finding a peace that can be found nowhere else.
Scripture: Ephesians 5
The Office of a Wife
One of the most devastating events in life is divorce! It is a difficult and painful time, not only for those involved but for loved ones as well. Nothing is ever truly right for a long time after the failure of a marriage no matter how much each partner is at fault.
There are many ways in which divorce can be prevented. The most important among these is how a husband relates to his wife.
Scripture tells us that she is to submit to her husband and to respect him. Scripture doesn’t stop here however. It lays an even greater responsibility on her husband. He is to love her and care for her as Christ loved His bride the church. Even though she is not perfect, a husband must place her above all other things, above his own wants and desires just as Christ did for His bride. He willingly gave up His own life so that she could stand before God pure and blemish free.
When a husband can do this, then he makes it possible for her to willingly obey God’s will for her in the marriage.
Scripture: Ephesians 5